Finding the Good Feeling Place

The following (in purple) are direct quotations taken from Esther Hicks (The Teachings of Abraham) as seen on the first version of DVD, The Secret.

I share this because I have gained a lot of insight and peace by reading the Abraham books and philosophy. I made sure that I wrote them down in my journal because the quotes are in regard to relationships.

I think they are particularly apropos in my situation with my son because I need to stop wishing for him to be other than he is, so I can be happy. For certain, having a non-verbal child is really hard. I long for his voice. I long for a conversation. I long to hear his take on the world, his perceptions. I want to KNOW him. Right now I simply intuit who he is, if you get what I mean. It is kind of like having only peripheral vision. I feel him and his energy, I have a perception of his beautiful Spirit. Such an affectionate sweet child, he is beloved by all of his teachers, therapists, and family. And, I am grateful for his good nature which I felt from the moment I held him in my arms.

As I read all of your blogs, I celebrate with you each time you transcribe a funny or profound conversation you have had with your child. One mom reported this morning that her son just began singing and what a joy it was to hear. It gives me hope. But, at the same time, I must accept the very real possibility that my child will remain nonverbal. He is not mute, he makes noises and he tries to say words. But it is not the same as hearing him speak words. So, even though I have been in a grieving process since his diagnosis 4 years or so ago, which I believe is only natural, I do need to be able to maintain a sense of stability, balance, and peace with where we are each day. You have to move on...which is easier said that done, and everyone must find their own way.

Abraham says that you must first do what you can to find thoughts that bring relief and get yourself feeling good, and from that place, you can then attract more and more better feeling thoughts, and better circumstances through the powerful Law of Attraction. I know this is true because I have turned unpleasant feelings and situations around very quickly by practicing this technique. And, trust me, I have had many opportunities to apply this wisdom throughout the years.

Therefore, I share the following wisdom from Abraham with you that really helped me to do this:

"If you knew your potential to feel good, you would ask no one to be different so that you can feel good. You would free yourself of all of that cumbersome impossibility of needing to control the world, your mate, your child. You are the only one who creates your reality."

And, the following quote has helped me tremendously in regard to my marriage. Having a child with autism creates a tremendous strain on that, as I am sure many of you know. So, I remember this and it has helped me avoid a lot of conflict:

"You must orient yourself to the best part of them. Make a list of positive aspects. Those people will become mostly that to you. And, even though you cannot create in their reality, if they are in a mood or an attitude that does not match the mood or attitude that you have about them, they will zig while you zag. The Law of Attraction will not put you in the same space together. The frequencies don’t match up."

I just discovered yesterday that my son has a bottom baby tooth that he is about to lose. I cannot believe that we are here already! I cannot tell him about the tooth fairy. I guess that is what precipitated me feeling a little melancholy today. But, then I thought, perhaps, I will save all of the baby teeth that I can, and, if he ever does talk, I can tell him about the Tooth Fairy and boy will he hit the jackpot overnight.

My job is just to love him and that's what I do.