So Much Remains to Be Seen

I got a lift this morning from a fellow blogger friend after reading her post about some advice she got. I told her I was going to write down what she said because it really increased my hope.

An update on my camper. He was out sick, unfortunately, last Thursday and Friday with some kind of a stomach bug that was going around the camp. He recovered pretty quickly and this weekend we started a new preparation of his methyl B-12 shot. As a matter of fact, it is a preparation called methylhydroxy B-12. Now, it's hard sometimes to distinguish what behavior is linked to a new biomed strategy or rather a result of something else, but he seems much calmer and we are getting some very nice communication from him.

For example, at school last Wednesday, they were thrilled because he said three words. At home the other day, he brought me a bag of chips and said, "Cheeup." This morning he went to the refrigerator to find his water bottle and he said, "Whah, whah, whah." I have taught him to tap his chest twice for "I want," and then point to what he wants and he will do this with very little cues. Pointing is a new big deal. He does not drag you so much from place to place. And the eye contact and engaging factor has increased.

So, though I got down like I always do this past weekend (I constantly respond to thought 'my son is going to be six years old this month and still he is not speaking to me'), I do believe he is coming along.

And, of course, I can't talk about him without the subject turning to potty habits, but today, he sat on the potty and moved his bowels. Oh My God. That is really a big deal!

Note to people in a similar situation as ours, then: It's so darn easy to get down and respond to what we are observing or what we THINK we are observing in the moment, but we forget that our children have their own potential, their own timetable, and we really cannot predict the future. We could save ourselves so much trouble by stopping imaging the worst case scenario all of the time, and try to at least put a little space around our children and our expectations for that X-factor...the sudden growth spurt, the good things that can happen we can't even begin to imagine.

I think that that space I am talking about is LOVE.

So, yes, so much does remain to be seen. Thanks, my friend.